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Warning to ministers, their wives and mistresses’
By Tri-State Defender Newsroom | Published  08/20/2009 | Religion | Rating:
Dr. Betty Price opens up about her life and her new book

This story reflects Dr. Betty Price’s interview with Terrance Dean and was written for the Michigan FrontPage, a Real Times Media publication.

Over 20 years ago, I started getting letters from women of various churches who were having illicit affairs with powerful married ministers. Then my phone started ringing off the hook. I didn’t know why these women were reaching out to me. I think it was because they were captivated by the televised preaching of my husband, Dr. Fred K. Price.

 
Dr. Betty R. Price was born Betty Ruth Scott on Feb. 9, 1934 in Gloster, Miss. In 1943, at the age of nine years old, she, along with her siblings and parents, moved to Los Angeles. In 1952 she graduated from Dorsey High School where she met Frederick K. C. Price, whom she later married on March 29, 1953 at the age of 19. Drs. Fred and Betty Price have four children and five grandchildren. Their marriage has spanned 50 years.

Recently I received two anonymous letters within a week apart. Both women shared that they are involved with very high-profiled men. As I read their letters I sensed their deep regret. They expressed that they never intended on being involved with a minister and each woman was seeking a way out.

The first letter was from an older, mature woman. She’d just bought a condo but lost her job after 25 years. Her self-esteem was very low and she reached out to her bishop for counseling. They’ve been having an affair for over three years. The second woman works side by side with her pastor. They began spending long hours together. Now, she is desperately trying to get out but doesn’t know how.

Both of these women know that what they are doing is wrong but don’t have the strength to leave. The ministers have threatened and coerced them into believing that if they left they would be dishonoring God. But both women expressed they were benefitting financially in the relationships. After reading those two letters, my daughter told me that I had to write a book.

I wrote “Warning To Ministers, Their Wives and Mistresses” to help young ministers so that they won’t allow the trappings that their positions bring to make them go in a different direction than what God has planned for them. There are women who come to church specifically for the purpose of sleeping with the minister and in my book I share the anonymous letters from these women who are having affairs with their pastors.

I also want to help other first ladies and women who live right for God and who do not have affairs with married men. I really want to shed light and bring it to the forefront because this secret is very harmful to the church. I want to let people know that the inappropriate actions of some ministers do not happen in every church. Moreover, I wanted to share my story and my experience.

This woman came into my and my husband’s life like a whirlwind. She called herself a prophet and every day she told my husband that she had a prophecy for him from God. At the time my husband was very interested in hearing things from God because he was new in the ministry. This woman always wanted to see him after church and talk with him alone and my woman’s intuition kicked in. I recognized what she was up to because this woman always had a word of prophecy but nothing she ever said ever came to pass.

My husband, however, was caught up. I knew he wasn’t doing anything with her physically because I was taking care of him at home. But this woman was very charismatic. She even enlisted her friends to give prophecies to my husband.

I kept telling my husband that she was not a prophet. I told him, “You’re spending too much time with someone that is not your wife. It does not look good.” But he couldn’t see it. He would get upset with me whenever I would say something. I was very hurt by it because he could not see what she was doing. He figured that she was spiritual and of God. He said he did not have a lot of people to talk to so I told him to talk to God.

At the time this woman was really overweight but then she started to lose the weight trying to get his attention. Then she started dressing like me. Finally, I had enough and I told my husband that I was not going to church anymore. In all my years of attending church I had only missed one Sunday service. I had to get him to see how serious it was for me. Most women would go after the other woman. I never did. I would never run after a woman. No, never. I tell women to go after him. If he doesn’t listen to you and see what it’s doing to you, then you leave.

I was strong enough to go to him and I knew I was a good wife. If it would have kept up, I wouldn’t have stayed in it. When I didn’t go to church he realized what he was doing and stopped talking with her. He cut it off and the woman finally left. They all leave when they can’t get their way.

In my situation it didn’t get a chance to go as far as him sleeping with another woman. I recognized that something was wrong and I spoke up and my husband listened. However, it was enough for me to know that something could go further.

It bothers me on many fronts to know that ministers have mistresses sitting right up in the church. Some have had children with these women and some leave their wives. I have talked to a lot of women and they say all the churches they have been in the ministers have been unfaithful and run around. I personally know so many that it’s scary. These women know what they are doing and I wrote the book because I want to expose the type of men, and women, who do this.

Where is God in their life? What is their commitment to God? Where is their conscience? They don’t think of the consequences and devastation it causes their families, their wives, their children and the church.

(Warning To Ministers, Their Wives and Mistresses is available online at www.faithdome.org.)

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  • Comment #1 (Posted by Carrie L.Harris)
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    Well said! I personally kow women who practice these actions.
     
  • Comment #2 (Posted by It's about time)
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    OMGosh, it's about time someone shed the light on this. All my life since my childhood starting in the baptist church I've seen this. My former pastor was sleeping around I was just a kid but how I remember the people talking about it, he fathered a child with her and later divorced his wife. Then we went to the Pentecostal church and the same thing, this time I was a teenager, the pentecostal pastor fathered a child by another woman and later divorced his wife. The church was in a mess, I remember the private members' only meeting screaming and shouting it was horrible. In my adulthood same thing different race this pastor was sleeping around even taking church money to use for things other than the church. To this day I'm not involved nearly like I was because I don't trust any of them. I go and when they say Amen I leave.
     
  • Comment #3 (Posted by Kim Mattox)
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    I know that this type of thing is going on all over the place. The main reason that this is happening is because people do not fear YAH anymore. They would rather satisfy their own needs before others. This is not what it means to walk in love with one another. We are not to desire anything of out brothers. He commanded us to walk holy before him, but people have forgotton his ways. They claim to love him on their lips but they are really ravinest wolves waiting to ravish the prey, and their wicked hearts are far from him. The only answer is to walk in covanent with the Father and remain steadfast in his word. He said these things will come. Marriages will be tested on every side. The question is will you know what to do when the storms come. Husbands and wives have to be very watchful and continue to pray. Satan wants to destroy anything that is Holy. The Almighty said that marriage is sanctified by him and is considered a unbreakable bond. So Husbands and wives out there remember what YAH has put together let NO man tear apart. Be blessed.
     
  • Comment #4 (Posted by Nathaniel Foster)
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    Dr. Price, you said it all and I thank you so much for speaking out and trying to teach all of us on this subject matter. Jesus tried to teach morality and the people later went back to their old adulterous ways. Preachers don't preach Jesus's teachings because they are culprits of deception.........keep-a-going and please do not stop telling the world that this is wrong. Christians must not forget that their names will not be written in the BOOK.

    You are doing a great job working alongside of your legendary husband and son. God bless you all and your church and members.
     
  • Comment #5 (Posted by PBR)
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    Thanks to Dr. Price for speaking out on a subject that many people whisper about but refrain from speaking out about.
     
  • Comment #6 (Posted by Brian)
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    I think Dr. Price has a duty to expose the ppl
     
  • Comment #7 (Posted by It's about time)
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    It's about time, I'm so sick of the hush, hush and people not stepping to the plate to talk and expose this time of stuff. I'm over the conference's in the churches that are not reaching and dealing with real life issues. That's the problem the people are coming in creeping and were too busy shouting instead of attacking the situation and exposing it. Good for her because I don't know of any other that has taken a stand to talk about on the real. Also, in regards to all these women day meeting, lets' go to brunch meetings and so on stop talking about the same old thing and talk to these woman straight up. 1st Ladies which I hate that title, stop trying to be DIVA'S and have your little crews following you while your man is all tied up with somebody else. you're not all that start dealing with people in the real and come out of all this fakeness. Then when you talk to single's you all skate around the issues! I mean really. Good for Sis. Price I love her for that. Expose it and start dealing with the issues church.
     
  • Comment #8 (Posted by an unknown user)
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    It's about time no other pastor/bishop/elder wife will talk about it. Good for her a real woman not ashame to step out of her comfort zone. Amen Mrs. Price.
     
  • Comment #9 (Posted by DR. BERNICE SMALL)
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    VERY GOOD ARTICLE MUCH NEEDED IN THE BODY OF CHRIST.
    THANK YOU! FROM DR.BERNICE SMALL
     
  • Comment #10 (Posted by phyllis)
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    Dr. Price, you certainly 'hit the nail on the head'. When i began worshipping in a congregation several years ago, I received phone calls, offers of rides to and from church, financial assistance. Being a new convert, I saw nothing wrong with this until a few yeas later, when I earnestly sought God. When He allowed me to see what was really happening, I realized I was being used and abused. Sure, I was a single parent, poor and felt worthless after breaking up with the father of my children. A very 'concerned' deacon saw to it that my family had food, clothing, and spending money. Soon one of the associate ministers became involved and 'took care of' my sexual frustrations. When I realized what was really happening, my reputation was in shreds, my self-esteem was tattered and I felt thouroughly ashamed and dirty. But God brought me through it all and I am now happily married to a wonderful man of God. However, we need to inform the younger and more vulnerable women about the wolves in sheep clothing. Thank you, Dr. Price, for bringing this subject out in the open.
     
  • Comment #11 (Posted by an unknown user)
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    Thank God somebody is finally taking a stand against this type of behavior in the church, to God be the glory.
     
  • Comment #12 (Posted by John Silver)
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    Preachers get more than anybody. Why do you think there is so many preachers and part time preachers.
     
  • Comment #13 (Posted by Lorraine)
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    We need to take more effort in covering the men and women in the body of Christ with prayer and as there will be more exposed. I THANK GOD FOR THIS BOOK as we realize that we must take accountability of our own personal relationship with God. I am personally praying for every working member of the church and wives that we become better examples of what holiness represents without it no man can see the Lord. Many women and men come into the church with a purpose looking for people that are vulnerable so let us guard our minds as well as our bodies that the Lord can get the glory on the earth that He deserves!!
     
  • Comment #14 (Posted by anderson)
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    This is scary. I do know that it do happen from experience. Thank you Dr. Price for speaking out. This was a real test for me.
     
  • Comment #15 (Posted by ve ve)
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    Will be ordering this book
     
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